I'm using a simple connector. Only two Pins and two through hole pads.

Both holes are to small for the real pins. So I changed the footprint.

First I was struggling to get any change, any effect outside the footprint manager. So I tried a lot, e.g. saved to changed footprint under a new name.
After a while I managed at least to update the parts in the component list next to my schematic. Nice.

But it's still not visible on my PCB.

Even worse. When I noch use "Update PCB" I get an error for each connector: "The footprint name associated with the component and the footprint on server are inconsistent, please re-associate it". From here I'm directly linked to the footprint manager. Here I can choose the footprint again, click on Update, and the red cross (error) changes to a green hook. But still no change, no PCB Update.

I don't want to place new parts because I did place them exactly with a lot of effort. And I can't belive that and update with bigger drills is impossible.